THE BETTER ME


YAY, BY THE GRACE OF GOD WE ARE FINALLY IN 2017.

Few days have passed and I believe so far it’s been GOOD. Before every year comes to an end, there’s this tradition we all do and I guess the last days of 2016 wasn’t an exemption for most of us. 
MAKING NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS is the tradition.

Last year was a great year for some of us BUT I know MOST of us didn’t achieve our RESOLUTIONS. I say that confidently because research shows only 8% of people actually achieve them. So statistically, I bet we didn’t. I’M NUMBER ONE anyway. 

Before the year[2016] ended, I gave it a careful thought as to how I will be able to achieve MY RESOLUTIONS. So I searched online [as if the previous years I never did that 😂] looking for SECRETS, HOW TOs, STEPS, KEYS, WAYS etc. of achieving NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS.

I just wanted this year to be an exception and JOIN THE 8% OF NEW YEAR RESOLUTION ACHIEVERS. I found soo many of them. I MEAN SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MANY that I got tired, stressed and even wanted to give up but as I kept on reading and writing key things and points in my diary, I got enlightened the more and also had better understanding to the extent of making my own notes. It was crazy mehn.

Lemme share some of them with you:

HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS

  • MAKE YOUR GOALS SPECIFIC

One of the things I do and I believe most of us do and say is “I’m finally going to make it” But what do you actually mean? Is it concerning your Spiritual Life? Your Career? Your Love Life? Your Finances [Make More Money mehn 😆😆😆😆😆]?

You just have to be specific or discrete concerning YOUR GOALS. PROCLAIM IT but they should follow the classic goal system that makes goals Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound (SMART).

  • MEASURE YOUR PROGRESS

There’s this phrase or quote which says "IF YOU CAN MEASURE IT, YOU CAN CHANGE IT". Keeping a track of where you started from and where you are now. This gives you a fair idea of how far you’ve gone. It also helps you to know whether you sliding back, at a roadblock or you making progress. It applies to every aspect of our lives and also much more in the Corporate World where companies want to know feedback of clients. Realizing it will make you to either increase your effort or maintain your momentum. 
It's very very important.

  • BE PATIENT

Being PATIENT entails and has lots of meanings. The Bible termed it as a VIRTUE and also a FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT [Galatians 5:22-23]. One of my favorite Bible Verse is Hebrews 6:12 which says “That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises”. Even though our patriarchs had FAITH, they needed PATIENCE so as to inherit THE PROMISES God had said. The same thing applies in our world today. People rush in doing things only to hit a resistance making their efforts and toil to be in vain. Starting or achieving something may be painfully slow during the initial stages. You may actually not see THE PROGRESS but you gotta be PATIENT and give it TIME 
TO MAKE SOMETHING LAST, IT TAKES TIME.


  • SHARE YOUR GOALS WITH FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS

Having people [Family and Close Friends] supporting you is pivotal cos they will cheer you up, motivate and encourage you when the going gets tougher and tougher. It actually increases your odds of succeeding BUT most times, we are unable to share it with them cos we fear we might fail or not achieve it at all and IT WOULD BE “YAWA” 😂😂😂😂😂. *i know right*

FORGET THE "YAWA" and TELL THEM BUT NOT JUST ANYONE. Some people will just discourage you the minute you tell them. They will give you thousand reasons why you won't or can't achieve it. So the people you tell too is essential. CHOOSE WISELY 
GET AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER: Someone who checks in with you on regular basis. It’s much easier to break a promise to yourself BUT far harder to admit it to a friend 😊.

*"YAWA" means disgrace*

  • SCHEDULE IT

Have you ever said you can’t find the time to do something? OH YES, COUNTLESS TIMES. THE FACT IS NOBODY HAS TIME but YOU CAN MAKE TIME. Make your new goals a priority and actually schedule them into your calendar. Treat them as appointments just like they were scheduled by a doctor. You rarely reschedule your doctor or flight so that's the same way you should treat your GOALS or RESOLUTIONS. 
IT KINDA GIVES IT SUCH IMPORTANCE. 

  • GET UP, WHEN YOU FALL [DON'T STAY DOWN]
It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up - Vince Lombardi 

Leaders believe that falling is not failing, but refusal to rise up after falling is the real form of failure! - Israelmore Ayivor 

Fall seven times. Stand up eight - Japanese Proverb



It's not the failures in our life that define us, it's the moments when we decide that getting back up is all that matters - Joel Brown



Falling and getting back up is what brings you success - Tony Horton



No matter how many times you get knocked down, keep getting back up. God sees your resolve.He sees your determination. And when you do everything you can do, that's when God will step in and do what you can't do - Joel Osteen

All these QUOTES have one thing in common which is RESILIENCE. Don’t turn your temporary failures into total meltdowns or excuses for giving up. Instead, just acknowledge your mistake or where it went wrong and recommit to the path towards your goal. 
NEVER GIVE UP ,KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.

These are some of the points I wrote down and I believe this year is gonna be A GREAT YEAR if you and I go by them.


One thing I realized in all the answers I got was,THE GOD FACTOR being absent. I wanna think it was HIDDEN so that only those of  us with '4 eyes' will be able to see it.

The New International Version of Proverbs 19:21 says "Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the LORD'S purpose that prevails".  

IT'S VERY VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU COMMIT YOUR GOALS OR RESOLUTIONS IN GOD'S HANDS. PRAY ABOUT IT COS FOR ALL YOU KNOW, THAT'S NOT WHAT GOD WANTS YOU TO FOCUS ON OR DO. 

 

MAY THIS YEAR, 2017 BE THE BEST  FOR YOU. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL



THE BETTER ME #Nii_Seyram


In life, people change their attitude,ways,reasoning etc due to varied or numerous reasons. The change in environment[relocating],meeting Jesus Christ,the death of a loved one,a near-death accident,meeting a life partner,reading or hearing a touching story are just a few of them.
It's disappointing when the change happens to be from a GOOD or POSITIVE ATTITUDE to a BAD or NEGATIVE ONE. #disastrous #catastrophe
 So you gotta be very careful.
For me, the change in environment and leaving my comfort zone changed me. It opened my eyes to the real world, what to expect when I grow up[like get married with kids and stuff], how difficult life is etc.

IT ALSO CHANGED MY THINKING AND PERCEPTION CONCERNING LOTS AND LOTS OF THINGS. Some things[house duties,chores etc] I never and didn’t do back home, I’M DOING THEM HERE.
It's crazy especially when my mum calls and I tell her the kinda chores I'd done during the day. My folks back home can't believe it. They go like 'WHAT A TRANSFORMATION'
IT'S JUST AMAZING AND SHOCKING.


         SOME THINGS I NEVER DID BACK HOME BUT DOING THEM HERE


  •     WASHING MY CLOTHES 
      Back home, I never washed my clothes even though I knew the procedure in doing that. My mum had someone who did my laundry. Gosh, the way people complained about it. They always said my mum was ‘spoiling’ me and other crazy stuff. 
 BUT HERE, I do my own laundry. 

  • WASHING MY OWN DISHES 
      One of the fights I had daily with my mum was washing my own dishes after eating. I hated doing that so I just  drop it for either my mum or lil sis to do that and I always receive insults from them. I guess they are free now….LOL
BUT HERE, Who’s gonna do that for ME? WHO BORN YOU?  
So I do them myself. 


  • LAYING MY BED 
      I never laid my bed for once back home. It was crazy…..Mummy will shout and rain insults on me but still I wouldn’t do it.
BUT HERE, I do that every day. My bed has to look nice mehn.


  • COOKING 
      Back home, I never really cooked. Dad, Mum, lil sis[Naa Elorm], they all cooked BUT for me, Nii Seyram, I was allergic to it. The only cooking I attempted was to fry eggs.
BUT HERE, I can’t be eating junk food always so I try my best to cook often. My first time cooking wasn’t easy at all but I’ve improved upon it through the help of my mum and close friends. I can cook Rice [actually,my Jollof Rice is the best in the world],Stew,Light Soup and some few dishes. I'M SOOOOOOOO PROUD OF MYSELF.

  • RESPONSIBLE 
      Back home, I can say for a fact that I wasn’t really responsible. I hadn’t stayed on my own before so I depended on my dad for everything. I MEAN EVERYTHING.
BUT HERE, I gotta do everything on my own. Every night before I sleep, I think of what I’m gonna eat either to cook [what to even cook] or buy junk food. I’ve learnt to take care of myself and also appreciate the people[their presence] God brings into my life more cos i miss my folks back home EVERYDAY.



A BETTER, MATURED AND UPGRADED VERSION OF ME.
HERE I AM #Nii_Seyram #labadiboyinrussia 



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